“Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is genuine.” I hear these words so often and relate this to the characteristics of love. I then ask myself, “Do I encompass these qualities when I demonstrate my love towards a person?” Patience? Kind? Genuine? However, after I go through my mental checklist, I feel that something is missing: intimacy. 

Intimacy is a scary thing. Often time we connect being intimate with the physical acts such as hugging, kissing and sex. Yet, intimacy can be more than that. Intimacy allows a person to become completely transparent. “Into me, you see.” And when you live so many years with a person you lose it or neglect some aspects that make your relationship more romantic, closer. You become so accustomed to be with the person whom you live with, you forget to light the fire in your sexual life. I do not only mean sex, but everything that makes you transparent with your partner, make you feel complete.

Touch me, see me beyond the world that surround us. Feel my skin, let me taste your savor. Even though I already know it. Drink me in small sips. Talk to me, I just want to hear your voice. Just stay by my side…

One thing I do not ever want to do, is over-romanticize sex, pre-marital abstinence or marriage itself. Obviously there is a place for romance, and it is very important, but if we somehow think that it’s all going to be perfect, easy or simply just because we keep to the ideal or pursue it, then we are not living in reality.

I am an old-fashioned romantic, but I need to be realistic and I know it is very hard keeping  lit the flame of passion, feelings are not the same, people are different, even whom we choose to live together with. I would like to think there is such relationship that another person can see beyond your physical body, to touch you with sweet words, to act with kindness all the time, it is a daily task despite of the stress of everyday life, the responsibilities that are placed on our shoulders by work, etc.

As human beings, we deal with other expectations, as hope, especially love. Can we live without them? I do not think so. Hope, passion and love are the fuel of life. I do believe that simple attitudes can make a big difference in our relationships. It is so frustrating living in a world where the relationships become so cold, so distant, without passion…

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets 

There is a fire burning in our hearts, like a prisoner starving for freedom and ecstasy that yearn for the pleasure the hesitant touch of love, which makes us live fully as human beings. Only passion can unleash the truth. Passion, an intense, compelling emotion that inspires livelihood and infinite creativity which manifests artistically from the moment it touches one’s heart and caresses one’s soul. That is what we also crave for… a life without passion is a life unworthy of living…  Passion may fall into a deep sleep, but it can be reawakened for a simple sparkle if you look for… Why do you control your passion? Go after it… ♥

“So I wait for you like a lonely house
Until you will see me again and live in me.
Till then my windows ache.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets