Disappointment.  The culmination of the feeling that tends to come when someone does not live up to your expectations.  They signed no contract and have no accountability toward to you to be the person you thought them to be.  They can only be themselves, or rather, the person they choose to be around you.

Sometimes people change.  They can be this amazing, soft, and full being whom you begin to learn so much about.  You can feel so safe when you are with them, so sure of their character and the actions they will take. But, remember, a person is just a person. It is easy to create this amazing soul in your head.  However, there comes a point when it may crash around you. You begin to watch their actions, actively seeing, instead of hearing. You can see the tears starting to form. No matter what a person says, you have the ability to invoke the meaning you want. The meaning that you hope it to be. You can choose to ignore these cracks in their character, rationalizing their words to how you see them. When their actions are different than what they project, or what you think they project, it changes everything.

It’s funny to think that you can look at someone you used to have feelings for. Those feelings are still there, somewhere, but this person is different. They are not who you made them out to be. Sometimes, they are who they made themselves out to be and you were not listening. You were not accepting their signs. That’s ok. They are just a person. A person who makes mistakes, who makes choices, who is figuring it out in an alternative way. There is no point is getting upset when someone is not who you think they are – who you thought they were. It will only cause you to hurt if you continue to idolize them in your head. Let them be a person. Let them have faults. We all have faults, we all make mistakes, and we all do out of character things.  We are all just trying.  Not always our best, but sometimes enough.

Occasionally, you find out you are not at all who you thought you were. You realize that you can leave. If you need more and are not getting it – leave. This is the life we live. Some days are off and you might be overwhelmed   Forgive yourself; you are who you choose to be. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Warmth is important. This person you made up in your head owes you nothing. They are allowed to be someone else. What you offer should be without obligation.

Never stop offering your best. There are some who will disappoint you, who will hurt you. Some will change and that’s ok. Maybe they just change towards you. Let them. If they do, know it’s ok.  You will find the others and they will find you. Let them be who they are.  Be who you are.

So, the lessons I have learned … ♥