I’ve written this before, but I would say this is universal for both male and female. Your first love teaches you, it molds you, it breaks you and turns you into the person you will eventually be. It gives you a taste of what being in love can be. It sets the path, and the tone, it sometimes shatters your heart into pieces, but sometimes it also heals it. Your first love fills that void, that emptiness that was there before you met that person. It makes your dark days bright, and your boring days worthwhile. Your first love changes you, in ways you don’t know, it educates you in ways you don’t understand. Every relationship you’ll have in the future, you will carry something that you learned from your first love and you will use it in your next ones.
Your first love teaches you what not to do, and what to do, what mistakes not to repeat, and what things to do again. Your first love isn’t perfect, but it lets you see an imperfect person with flaws and scars perfect. Your first love shows you that the word love means nothing if it’s not shown in actions. I truly believe your first love sets the foundation in how you will look at relationships. You first love shows you that whether you get burned or you end in good terms, it will always be something you will look back to and not so much to remember the memories and the good times, but just to remember how young you were when you first loved, and compare to how far you have gotten now.
You will never actually forget them. But as you grow up and experience more and more of the amazing experiences life has to offer, your time with them will begin to seem less special. It will just be another adventure on the path that your life took. Thinking back to your time together will always bring back nostalgia and fond memories, but it will be nothing more than that. They will always hold a small place in your heart, but you will no longer want, care, or desire them. You’ll see that all those tears, and sleepless nights, fights and arguments meant nothing, because honestly first loves rarely ever stay forever, but they come to us when we need it, and they leave us when it’s time for us to grow. Because at the day of the day, it’s not about who you’ve been with, it’s about who you end up with…❤
Beatriz Esmer 