When a man tells you he’s “not sure” about the relationship, it’s already over. He’s either working on someone new or too much of a coward to truly end things. A man who loves a woman will move mountains for her. Trust me, if he’s not fighting for you, he’s not the one.

Pay attention to the stories he tells you. If he mentions a nice restaurant or a show, he didn’t go with a buddy or alone. And yes, most men look at porn. Frequently. Your tears should be his Kryptonite; if he doesn’t care when you cry, he’s not for you.

Many men lie about seeing other women after a breakup to keep options open. They want you to hold onto hope so you don’t move on. If he’s unwilling to compromise, he’s a bully. Who wants to date a bully?

He’s not the only man out there. He knows it, and so should you. Men who love you make you feel good. When they make you feel bad, they don’t make it worse—they strive to make it better. If you’re not meeting his family six months in, he’s not serious. If he doesn’t care that you’re seeing other people, he’s seeing other people.

Bad boys use the good in girls against them. Men distance themselves when they’re doing something you won’t like. If you’re not hearing from him, he’s likely with someone else. Many men cheat, but as you get older, you don’t want to carry that into a relationship with a woman you love and respect.

Ladies, don’t make excuses for men who treat you badly. If you do, they will continue to treat you badly. You know when a man respects and loves you—you feel it. It’s not conditional, and you don’t have to ask.

Be the best woman you can be to a man, and expect the same from him. You’ll both fall short, but you just get back up and give your best again. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. Men will often turn things around on women to get away with things. Hold your ground, and if he doesn’t change, change your number.

An insecure man will almost always destroy a relationship. Believe me, I know it. You cannot trust a liar. If he’s lied to you once, he’s likely lied to you many times before.

Most men have a hard time dating beautiful or successful women. Unless you’re strong-minded, your insecurities will mess with your head. If he only tries to make up with you when he’s in town, he’s trying to sleep with you. It will go back to how it was after he gets what he wants.

He may not be thinking about you now because he’s focused on someone else, but that doesn’t mean losing you won’t come back to bite him. Don’t wait around. Move on to someone who would do anything but let you go. 😉

©️Beatriz Esmer